Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Bienvenido N. Santos- The Door

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  2. In this world of temptations,we cannot deny the fact that one of the major reasons why there are broken families is because of lacked of faithfulness between couple. As a man of principle, its a big insult to arrive home only to find out that there is another man in your own house with the door locked. Based on the story, it emphasized the martyrdom of a man though he knew that there is "third party" involved.Though it hurt him so much but because of his love to his wife,he pretended as if everything was okay.Nowadays, there are only few men who are willing to accept everything just for the sake of their relationships though it may hurt them so much. I salute with the man in the story for his being martyr in terms of love but it would be much better if he confirm his wife because sometimes we misinterpreted things and it is also his right as a husband. There is nothing wrong about confirming as they said" Marami ang namamatay sa maling akala",still better to catch them in the act than to repent at last.

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  3. The story entitled " The Door" was written by a Filipino-American Fictionist Beinvenido N.Santos.Through this story i inspired a lot Delfin the protagonist in this said story since he is very faithful and lovable in his American second wife. Even though some of his friends was disappointed his wife against him but still he did not listen to them. Delfin portraits here the true meaning of love. For him, love is full of faithfulness and trust with each other. Though his wife always give him a so much pain but still he is very loyal and faithful to her.

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  5. Bienvenido N. Santos is one of the prominent writers of the Philippines. As a good fellow,he wrote a lot of filipinos' experiences in abroad and one of the story that he made is entitled "The Door". It is entitled "The Door", because behind that door is unpleasant scene. It is about being a martyr of a filipino husband namely Delfin to his american wife namely Mildred. He knew that when the door is close, his wife is with the other guy, and he would not do anything because he is afraid that his wife will leave him. It is just that, sometimes, love can make you sick, but give limits for your self, because too much love will kill you.

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  6. "The Door" is a story about love, love of a Filipino for her wife. What Delfin did in the story is a very rare kind of love. He just let his wife go with other guys. If I'm Delfin, I will be very angree with my wife. And I will not let her do it again.

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  7. The story entitled "The Door"was written by the filipino writer Bienvenido N. Santos. I have a lot of reflection base on this story.The story was all about a Filipino who married an American girl.The husband felt that he was cheated by his wife because every time he arrives in their house, the door always locked.In the story it emphasized the martyrdom of the man through he know that there's a third party involved because as what I've stated in the second sentence that every time he arrives in their house the door always locked, that's the reason why there's martyrdom of the man in the story . The author strengths are:He is still a better story teller than a poet, There are echoes of foreign voices in his poems.

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  8. Couple in the family specifically husband and wife should be honest with each other. Through honesty and trust they can have a long-lasting relationship. Due to the new generation and the way we live our life now affects the way we deal with others specifically with our family. Some are now liberated through the influence of west countries which have less family values. The promised vow with each other that they will live forever was broken. Currently, couples now are not satisfied with each other that they tend to find someone to have satisfaction.Broken families will occur and the worst is the children will be affected. Misunderstandings cannot be avoided but its good to approach each other rather keeping each others feelings which is not good and learning to accept things that will cause us pain is much preferred. Though its hard but at least we know the truth and it gives us a little relief. These things are happening right now. In order to avoid it is to love, trust and be honest with each other.

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  9. For me,the story tells about a couple who were living with a big problem. This problem can break their relationship. Sometimes we don't have to be over suspicious to one another. If we feel something wrong in your wife or husband,we have a right to say something that can help to maintain the good relationship with each other. We shall not be afraid of saying this to our love because if we don't, we cannot have that good relationship.

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  10. The story simply represents the situation of the couples nowadays especially if they have a different culture. They are living in one house but they are not interacting and communicating like a normal couple.It happens in real life because some women are not contented of their husband and find happiness in other man. It shows the patience of the husband and his love to his wife even though there is a lot of issue about her. It is a fact that there husbands who are very martyr just to keep their marriage and relationship as a family. It gives lesson and guidelines for us youth who will someday have a husband or wife, that in a one couple there should be contentment and being faithful to maintain good relationship in a family. I realized that having an own family is not an easy task to do for you have understand your partner, your friends and yourself.

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  11. The story of the door tells about the effect of different culture in term s of relationship. In the story, Mildred, which is an American girl did something that we Filipino are not doing, because we believe it is a sin. If I am Delfin i will not let my wife to do that things, because I believe, if you love one person you never let other will destroy the name of your love. I never believe in what the story says about, what we Filipino perform in the other country,is what we are. I believe it because of the influence of the other and the way we perform the events base on the situation.I realized in the story that, we should know what is the real, don't judge directly, without knowing the truth.

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  12. The story tell's about the relationship within the american girl and the filipino married. This situation that the couple are not the same culture but because of they try love even though the women is american. Many filipino married an american it's because of the generation that encounter our life. Some couple now is dishonest because of the temptation. Story of "THE DOOR" is very nice many can relate the story of "DELFIN and MILDRED" If you very inlove your wife i will not allow to do some things that can affect the relationships. We should know the real story not to be a judge mental person.

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  13. The story was all about a Filipino being married to an American girl. In that story, we can see the cultural differences between two countries-the culture of the Filipino people and the American people. The difference in the attitudes of a Filipino and Americans, the American girl does not value & care about what her husband feels everytime the door was locked & a boy will go out of the room. While the Filipino boy was so martyr that he did not even confront his wife about what's happening inside. In that scenario we can see that Filipinos were so down to earth& also we can see one attitude of a Filipino in the story-being judgmental. In the part wherein friends of Delfin judge her wife & the scene where Delfin thought that Ambo is one also of the boys of Mildred. Generally, the author was able to illustrate to us in the story that many Filipinos who lives abroad have the same story with Delfin, we've seen the other side of Beinvenido Santos being a reporter.

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  14. The story shows the differences of the cultures between Filipino and the American in terms of relationship.In the story, Mildred did not mind of what others could tell about her while accepting male visitors and leaving the door locked. She never realized that her husband would be hurt because of that. I don't like the story because the events were not explained well.It made me think of what is really happening inside the house while Delfin is waiting outside. The conflict has not been resolved. The story ends but Delfin still did not ask his wife about the events.

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  15. What i can comment in the story is that Delfin and his close friend misjudged Mildred. They thought that Ambo and Mildred are having an intimate relationship which is not true. They must better have confrontation so that things will go better between Delfin and Mildred as well. Many people died just because of wrong thoughts . We must clarify the situations so that wrong thoughts will become the right one and it will not take time for us to regret.

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  16. The story really happen in the reality which was they have a differences culture between the Filipino and American people. In the story mildred doesn't care about the relation to delfin in the sense that mildred doesn't respect the love of delfin to her. Even though they have in the same house they don't have communicating in terms of love because there are some wife are not contented to their husband.It is fact to the side of the girl because it shows the American culture which was she follow for it. Therefore, I can say that marrying someone who is a difference culture is not easy. so be better to marry the same culture in order to have and build a better family.

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  17. In the story entitled "The Door", it shows a kind of attitude which Filipino people like Delfin has. Delfin is very patient for his wife. He just let other man enter the door with his wife. And he doesn't do anything. Instead, he just stand in front of the door and wait till the door opens. For me, what Delfin did is not right and he must not let his wife do that thing.

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  18. Bienvenido N. Santos" The Door", is the story of marriage people with different culture living together in an apartment.
    For me, it does not mean that if both of you have different culture, you have also different teatment to each other.Being a husband and wife you should show love to each other, share the moments together for better or for worst. But, in the case of Mildred and Delfin, they both shows on the contrary to this situation.They are not open to each other. In general, they missed that of what we call "RESPECT"..!

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  19. The story of Bienvenido Santos ''The Door''based on the story of a Filipino lived abroad and used to marry American. It shows how Filipino people suffer in abroad because of the culture in other county. Not all Filipino there are working successfully in fact they don't have any choice and earned money for their family. Trust is also important in a relationship and we have to respect the right of our partner. The message of the story is that we should be aware about the feelings of our partner and not be selfish in our own happiness just like what happen in the story wherein Mildred is not giving attention to his husband because of his closeness to Ambo.

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  20. Nowadays, I have seen many couples with different culture with a very strong relationship. In this situation, I think it's just a matter of adjustment. Since, both came from different country I guess both have to adjust in order for them to last. In this story where there is a couple wherein the man is a Filipino and the wife is an American. This American keeps on inviting men to get into their house whenever her husband is not around and every time her husband came home he always find the door locked and when the door opened a man gets out from their house. We all know that women from the other country specially in America they do what they want and they doesn't even care to what other people have to say. In this situation, the man should tell his wife about this things that she must refrain from the things that she was used to do and to respect him as her husband. But, I think this man really love his wife that's why he just ignore the things that his wife is doing. I have learned in this story that in order to last or to have a good relationship with your partner it should be both of you will have to adjust respect each other.

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  21. How to deal with problems lightly is one strategy to understand life.In every relationship,there must be a problem which we need to face in order to have a solution.In the story we see that misunderstanding,lacked of faithfulness are involve between husband(Ambo) and wife(Mildred). It is happen because both of them came from other culture,which is one reason also why their relationship affected. But for me,if you as a wife and husband trust each other,no matter what happen your relationship will be long-lasting,because love,honesty and care are the recipe to have a happier,fulfilled,successful and perfect relationship.And before we judge to one person also,we need first to know the real reason,you don't have to spend your time explaining why like this or like that because it is something personal and for you also to protect yourself.

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  22. The story is all about the life of a couple in a different culture. It is very difficult to live with a woman who has a different point of view in life. It is happening nowadays because there are couples who break their marriage because one of them is not contented in their partners. Delfin in the story is very in love with his wife and he became martyr because of his feelings toward in his foreign wife. He is afraid that his wife will leave him even though he knows that every time he leaves in the house there are guys which his wife entertaining. I conclude that when you really love your partner try to ask her about what she wants in order to improve the relationship they have.

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  23. Until now, I was still puzzled on the real scenario of the story "The Door". The author didn't state clearly what was really happening inside the apartment with Mildred and Ambo. Delfin is also being martyr even if he has all the right in this world to knock on the door and ask Mildred and Ambo of what they are doing. Mildred also doesn't care of what other people would say as long as she does whatever she wants. There are really husbands like Delfin and wives like Mildred nowadays. Its a reality!

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  24. I appreciate what was the author of the short story entitled "The Door" wants to tell us, that in a married life the different culture of a couple really affects the flow of their relationship. The story tells us that if that person was very in love to his partner he became blind and deaf to wrong which is wrong in love. I was very touch by the rule of Delfin in the story, conquering the different humor that their friends observe on what his wife doing to their house when he was not there, his love stands even if he was hurt because of that humor, he became stupid and martyr and blind for everything because he was afraid to leave by his wife. It was stupid thing I guess but she cannot blame him because he was only in love and afraid to leave by his wife, I think the saying that "Love is Blind" is very fitted to the role of Delfin in the story. I realized that if the couple has a different culture that follows the belief it can really affect on their relationship because they don't care what their partner feels because that was they believe.I realized also that don't easily judge a person without any evidence especially when that came from humors of the people surrounds you.

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  25. Bienvenido Santos was able to show a complicated marriage life of a filipino and an american in the story of "The Door". I can say that it is complicated because Delfin easily jump into conclusion that there is something happening inside their house because the door is locked, eventhough he did not really see it. For me, I think it is really complicated when two person that has different culture will marry each other , like Delfin and Mildred in the story. It is because they can't easily adopt to each others culture. As we all know in America, people are liberated and it is natural for them to talk inside the house with the doors locked with other man. Unlike to us filipinos, we are not used to that thing, so I think that's the reason why Delfin think that way.

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  26. The story entitled "The Door" has taught me 2 important things:1.when marrying a certain person, we should always bear in mind that every individual has a unique identity and we should adjust to these diverse personalities in order to live with others in harmony 2.one should never jump to assumptions without doing any clarifications that would justify that assumption.In the story,Mildred is letting anyone enter her house without consulting to her husband Delfin.On the other hand, when Delfin saw Mildred letting other men enter the house,he quickly jumped to the conclusion that his wife has other man.If we try to look at it,this scenario only shows a misunderstanding between the two.I really think this conflict will only be solved if Mildred and Delfin will talk with each other settle their problems.

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  27. They said, if you really love a person, you should accept who she/he really is. Yeah this statement is true, but in this story, i think Delfin prove this statement but accepting of who really his wife is, is too much. He is very numb on what his wife doing.He didnot mind on what others saying because he really love his wife. These story is such a reality that still hapenning nowadays. Lot of couples end their relationships because of having "Third Parties" . Its a matter of being unfaithful. If we enter marriage life, we must satisfy with our our partners.

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  28. The story tells about the life of marriage in aboard, which is he/she has force to marry that someone inorder for him to stay on that place, in this situation we cant blame thecharacter beacause he found ways to resolve his problem. But sometimes, we made a decision that in our heart or eventhough in mind so hard. I guess the character here is very openminded because he think his future.

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  29. Culture or the attitude?In my point of view culture is not the issue,its with the attitude, that is what meant in the story "The Door"The attitude of being not considerate&judgmental.Why?because in the story Mildred has no care of the feelings of Delfin which is her husband,as of the fact that she allows men to enter their house without Delfin,and Delfin also jump into conclusion that his wife is doing something without seeing or proving any and he also judge his best friend for doing such also. Proper Communication is also the key which the two of them lacked. In this story I gain lessons to carry,that in a relationship particularly marriage life,communication between the partners is an important aspect towards understanding and harmony. It is The primary source of strength within the relationship to last and lived with harmony,culture is secondary for me,because culture does not affect your whole being only a contributor,still it is your choice if you adopt a certain culture or allow to rule your being,still a "CHOICE",what matters most is your personality and characters,isn't it?

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  30. I was little bit confused about the story " The Door". There are some part of the story that was not clear. Ex, the author did not state in the story what was really happening in the apartment with Mlidred and Ambo. I realized that Mildred was not doing her responsibilities as a wife. She must realize that what she is doing was not good in the eyes of others. I can say that Delfin is a really good husband. In every couple trust and respect should really exist.

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  31. The story"The Door"emphasized the life of a person living in a place where culture and beliefs are different from each other.From the beginning of the story down to the ending part,the author clearly stated how hard to find happiness when you marry an American girl who is liberated,modern and open-minded.In the beginning part,the author emphasize the reality of falling in love with a woman whom you cant be sure if she really respect and faithful to you as a partner.In the middle part,the author described a husband who became a martyr in order to maintain the good relationship of the family where he belong.In the ending part,the author described how a person judge a certain situation.He clearly emphasized that even a person did nothing but he was trap in similar situation,he still a sinner in the eye of the person who happen to saw him.As a whole,this is a story that everyone can relate on and touches the heart of an individual who was trap with the same situation.

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  33. The story entitled "The Door" shows how cultural differences affects the relationship between couple. People in western countries like Mildred is liberated, even she's married, she don't mind whoever man that will enter their house. I was disappointed to her husband, Delfin, because he didn't asked her wife why every time he got home, the door was locked! He had the right to ask because they were married and it is very insulting to arrived home only to find out that there is another man in your own house without knowing what's happening inside. Couple must be transparent with each other that nothing should be put into secret.

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  34. The story is about the life of marriage between Mildred who is a American and Delfin.It's shows the differences of Filipino and American with there attitudes.I dont like Mildred attitude that she allow somebody to enter their house without consulting her husband.Delfin show being martry on what happen in their house for the reason he wanted to maintain their relationship together. Mildred don't think what will other say on what she was doing, the important to her is she was enjoying in her life,its reality nowadays its happening.Maybe they will fix their problem if they will talk to each other so that it will state clear to both of them the real happening in their relationship.

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  35. The story entitled " The Door" was written by Beinvenido N.Santos. Shows the differences of Filipino and American lifestyle also it indicates the suffering of Filipino there in abroad. The story is all about the life of the couple Mildred and Delfin. In the part of Delfin it is very complicated to assume that his wife Mildred has miracle doing inside the room with Ambo. Although he want to knock the door but he doesn't did it because he don't want to see what they did there inside the room. In this story it says that the Filipino are truely loyal to there partner despite of there differences. The lesson I picked in the story is that the couple of minor coups that had a big difference should always be treasure each other in the recognition that we do not know how long we shall have each other.

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  36. The story entitled 'The Door' shows how cultural differences affects the relationship of both partners as well as the married couple.The cultural issue did not affect the story of meldrid and delfin because in the story it is meldrid choice to allows men to enter there house even if he has a husband.Delfin is over judgmental he did not confront meldrid about what was happening if he is not around in there house and delfin was scared to confront meldrid because he thinks that maybe if this will happen meldrid will left him.

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  37. In this story THE DOOR,it shows the differences of a culture.This story is all about the couple,Mildred and Delfin.The wrong in this story is that,Delfin did not confront his wife whats going on if his not in the house.The author clearly stated how hard to find happiness if you marry a American citizen.They said, if you really love someone you should accept who really she/he is.The lesson that I learn as what the author wrote is that, if you want to marry someone be sure that he/she is a perfect partner for you,and your satisfied with your pair.

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  38. On the story " The Door" it was a nice story in the sense that it shows cultural conflict. And it was also very interesting story because Filipino people are involve. Just like in the story when Delfin was given an advice by his friends to get rid of his wife because of its wrong doing but still he did not left his wife because of his love. He prefer to be martyr. For me its not bad to follow friends advice but make sure of what your decision is. And also at the point that when he went home and the door was close and then he saw his friend Ambo was in there. His feeling regarding on that situation was arising its because his own friend who said theres something wrong with his wife was the one he saw inside. It was really shocking. People are so judge-mental. Although it happened that he saw ambo and his wife inside, but for me it was just a normal reaction of a man to react that way.

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  39. As what i had understand with the story entitled "THE DOOR" by:Buenvenido Santos, it definitely connected like what happen long time ago even as of now.Full of Filipino people has been doing like what happen in the story, that the wife of Delfin namely Meldrid, doing something that affect of the proper relationship with each other because of what she did to her husband.Actually this story is full of moral lesson or moral value specially to the youth in this new generation.there are many things that we can prevent that kind of situation first is we must to pray always in our daily lives or in the whole life, it is because the god will listen to you and he will crown your life to a nicely,wonderful and bountiful one.

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  40. The story shows the life of some filipino people go abroad for them to have a job and adjust the culture in other country. The couple in the story is having conflict about their situation because of their behavior. The author tells the reality that happened in a family that sometimes their is a misunderstanding. Trust is very important in relationship so that it would end forever and we need to be honest also. In the story, the problem there is the couple are not aware about the people around them and good thing their is they stay living together with their children.

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  41. where can i have a copy of this?

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  42. where can i find the story "The Door "by Bienvenido Santos?

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